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Estate planning, often perceived as a complex and sensitive topic, becomes especially important during the holiday season, a time traditionally associated with family gatherings and reflection on the future. Since many families are together during the holidays in a supportive environment, this time can be a unique opportunity to discuss estate planning. Engaging in this conversation ensures that family members are aware of one’s wishes, helping to prevent potential misunderstandings or disputes in the future. It also allows for the involvement of various generations in the planning process, fostering a sense of shared responsibility. Addressing estate planning during the holidays can also help your communication by identifying and addressing any financial or legal issues early on, thereby safeguarding the family’s future stability and decreasing chances of tensions in the family.

Tips To Help Ensure That These Types of Conversations Go Well

  • Choose the Right Time and Setting: It is important to choose a time when all key family members are present and can participate in the discussion without distractions. A quiet, private setting is preferable, away from the festive holiday activities.
  • Prepare Ahead of Time: Before initiating the conversation, make sure you have a clear understanding of the estate planning details. This might include discussing the need for wills, trusts, powers of attorney, healthcare directives, and any financial plans. Having documentation or a checklist can be helpful.
  • Be Clear About Your Intentions: Start the conversation by clearly expressing your intention. Emphasize the importance of estate planning for the well-being and security of the entire family.
  • Involve Everyone: Encourage each family member to express their views and concerns. It is important to actively listen and validate their feelings. This is not just about a discussion of the necessary legal documents – it is also about people’s emotions and relationships.
  • Discuss Key Elements: Go over the main elements of your estate plan if it is in place already, or what your intentions are if you plan to initiate estate planning discussions with an attorney. Explain who is appointed to make decisions (like the executor of the will or health care proxy), how assets are to be distributed, and any specific wishes you may have.
  • Address Concerns and Questions: Be prepared to answer questions and address concerns. This might involve complex legal concepts or sensitive family dynamics. If you are all unsure of an answer, maybe exploring it together will help maintain, or even enhance, the relationship.
  • Seek Professional Advice if Needed: If there are unresolved issues or if the conversation gets too complex, suggest the possibility of consulting with an estate planning attorney for guidance.
  • Set a Time To Follow Up On The Conversation: After the initial conversation, make plans for a follow up discussion. This could involve meeting with professionals, updating documents, or having further discussions as a family.
  • Keep the Atmosphere Positive: While estate planning can be a serious topic, try to keep the conversation as positive and constructive as possible. Reiterate that the goal is to ensure open communication, peace of mind and security for everyone.
  • Respect Boundaries: Be mindful of the comfort levels of different members of the family and respect their boundaries. If someone is not ready to discuss certain aspects of the estate plan, give them some time. 

Remember, the goal of this conversation is not just to relay information but also to foster understanding and unity within the family regarding future plans. It is an ongoing process and should be approached with care and sensitivity. Once you feel comfortable with how you intend to proceed, it is important to find an experienced estate planning attorney who will be able to explain the advantages of the different documents, the roles and responsibilities of the executor/trustee named in these documents, and any other concerns. Bozanian McGregor, LLC has experienced estate planning attorneys who can help you with your varied estate planning needs. Contact our firm for an initial consultation.